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Yo, Mike!

I’ve been having no-strings sex with this guy for like, 2 years.
Every month or so he comes over, we play hide the salami, he takes a
shower and that’s about it. But lately, we’ve been doing it more often
and actually having decent conversations at the end of our sessions.
Well, guess what? I’m falling for him. I want to ask him out on a date
but I’m not sure how or whether I should. On the one hand, I don’t want
to scare him off and ruin the chance of getting laid regularly, but on
the other, I want to take this to the next level. What’s the best way
of turning a fuck buddy into a boyfriend?

— Dying to know

Dear Dying:

You may as well try turning Clay Aiken into a top. Fuck buddies are
about being involved; boyfriends are about being committed. Think of it
like a sausage and eggs breakfast–the chicken was involved; the pig
was committed. Your fuck buddy’s eggs are involved and now you want his
sausage committed? Good luck.

Still, it *is* possible to convert him from a penis that’s attached
to nobody special to somebody special with an attached penis. The best
way to up the odds is to play it cool. That means:

No Heart-To-Heart Talks.
If you call him up and say, “We need to talk,” it better be about
switching lubes or trying new positions. Don’t get me wrong—you *do*
need to talk. A lot, actually. Just not about your feelings. Figure out
what he likes outside the bedroom and bring it up. You need to
establish a bond with him that doesn’t involve sex.

Invest In Bottle Openers. You want him as loose as your
morals and the best way to do that is to ply him with liquor. You don’t
want him just listening—you want him talking. And alcohol will make his
mouth as promiscuous as Paris Hilton’s publicist. Start the pouring
before you head for the bed or after you’re done. The point is to get
to know each other better.

Don’t Ask Him Out; Get Him To Stay. Do something that’ll
make him stay longer. Show him a scene you taped from the Daily Show,
for example. Your relationship with him has been completely
sex-centered so start centering it somewhere else. If there’s a spark
during the ‘extended stay’, he’ll hang around so long he’ll have to
stay over and then you’ll have a *real* problem on your hands: What to
cook for breakfast.

Be Funny. Remember, laughter is the Vaseline that makes
ideas penetrate better. The idea, in this case, is for him to see you
as marriage material. Make him chuckle and you’re halfway up his leg.
Make him laugh and you’re halfway up the aisle.

Fuck Him Senseless. No, really. Don’t forget why he’s
there. If you start replacing sex with conversation you’ll just make
him say “NO” in eight different languages. Don’t replace sex; add to it.

Don’t Force It. If he doesn’t respond; if he finds
excuses not to come early or stay late; if he won’t even take a beer
when he comes over; then TAKE A FUCKING HINT. Game over! At that point,
you’ll have to decide if the pain of seeing him will be worth the
pleasure of screwing him. And believe me it will be painful. Nothing
hurts like unrequited love. Well, unless you’re getting topped by a guy
who doesn’t believe in lube.